Spooning gets a bad rap for being the go-to arouse stead of the hungover or faineant. But hear me out : Some of the hottest sex you ‘ll always have can happen in this cozy frame-up. For one, the skin-to-skin contact is alone : You ‘re literally attached from the neck down to your feet. Two, having your partner back their hips up against yours means that you feel **every inch** of them inside from the begin of each push to the end. And last but not least : Because of the physical closeness, there are therefore many opportunities for extra ace, says Janet Brito, PhD, a accredited clinical psychologist and certified arouse therapist in Honolulu, Hawaii. That includes your spouse kissing your neck, stroking your nipples, massaging your clitoris. The options are dateless.
All that said, spooning sex wo n’t fair make itself exciting. here ‘s how to crank your spooning game up a notch :
- Fool around with your fingers.
Spooning sex happens most in the morning, when you’re half asleep, or in the evening, when you’re about to zonk out. Both of these moments (especially the a.m.) are times when you might be particularly tight down-there. So “wake up” by exploring your vagina and clitoris with your fingers, or have your partner do so as they get excited, too.
- Add lube.
Ah, lube: the answer to pretty much every sex scenario. Lube just makes intercourse better, period. And that goes two-fold when you’re not super wet on your own (before you’re fully awake and stimulated, or after a long, stressful day). You’ll definitely want it for spooning sex in particular, Brito notes, since the close-contact position can feel intense (read: uncomfortably deep) without it.
- Play with y’alls hips.
Sure, you have easy access to your partner’s junk and they can quickly get handsy with yours (upper and lower). But you’re also in the perfect position to give attention to each other’s hip bones—which, for many people, is a serious erogenous zone. Squeeze your partner’s hips and have them squeeze yours—it’ll likely send a tickle down to the exact place you need it.
- Experiment with leg positioning.
I get it: Lying down and not moving much is half the beauty of spooning sex. But that’s the boring kind…and you’re over that, right? To make your sexy sesh more exciting, get frisky with your legs: Lift one up toward the ceiling, bend one and place your foot on top of your other shin, bend both knees drastically. All of these twists will change the feeling of fullness inside you, explains Brito. Hot!
now that you ‘ve got the 411 on having holy-sh*t spooning sex, try these four positions, stat :